The More, The Not-So Merrier. Why More Means Less When It Comes to Choices.

You’ve been there, we all have. Moments when you’re faced with a bucket of choices turtle beachand time sways in anticipation as you hold the power to make a decision. Maybe your election regards a simple purpose or maybe for something  life changing. No matter whether your judgement is about to effect a big or small part of your life, for many,  the simple action of actually deciding seems to consume way more of our mental energy than it should. Why? Well, for starters people have been lying to you your whole life;

M o r e  Doesn’t Always

Mean  M e r r i e r. 

Having an abundance of choice means spending greater amounts of brain power on the many more options to consider. Many people believe the more choices they have, the better their life will be, or worse, the happier they will be. They want to believe there is joy in having this rainbow of variety, but in reality there comes less. 

It happens all the time. We finally amp up the energy to make a vote and then we think about it for hours, days or weeks after its been made. Could I have chosen a better meal?Should I have worn something different?  Could I have chosen a better mate? A better car? A better (FILL IN THE BLANK WITH LITERALLY ANYTHING)?

The reason we question ourselves to no end is because along with the plethora of choice also comes greater opportunity for

D i s s a t i s f a c t i o n .

With good comes bad, people. It’s how life operates. Thinking about everything that “could have been” never seems to sit well with any of us. This increase of privilege brings an increase in contemplating combinations in which every single one of us has, at one point or another, lost sleep over. What could have been “better” than what I chose?, we think. See, the odds are already stacked against you. In the end, you’re only capable of choosing so much. It’s sure dam hard to be happy with your lonely little decision when several, seemingly amazing, selections are shaming you.  

Hushing out all the noise of choice doesn’t work either.  sunsetAs breathing beings, we need to have some type of choice because having none at all makes us feel helpless and angry at the world.

The sweet balance lies in, dare I say it, only having SOME choices. We can’t have it all, although many drive themselves insane believing they can, and we won’t be happy if we have nothing to choose from. For harmony between health and happiness, allow yourself some choice. Not all. Not none. 

If you don’t know how to do that, remember the best choice is the one you create and make for yourself.  

For more information, check out Barry Schwartz’s ,

The Paradox of Choice.