Even if you have no idea how to change the course your life is on, start with what you do know. For me, I knew, or at least was learning, all I wanted was to be happy again. Under all my sopping depression, hateful anger, livid resentment, clutching grudges, and crippling pain, all I truly wanted from life was to smile again. To have my life driving toward a place I was excited to go. And that is where I started.